{"id":4693,"date":"2020-12-05T19:16:59","date_gmt":"2020-12-05T19:16:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=4693"},"modified":"2020-12-05T19:16:59","modified_gmt":"2020-12-05T19:16:59","slug":"when-relationships-in-crisis-can-be-saved","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/when-relationships-in-crisis-can-be-saved\/","title":{"rendered":"When relationships in crisis can be saved?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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It’s worth noting that crises may happen even with the strongest relationships. Having difficulties is normal. Sometimes a crisis can become an important stage in the relationship. When it’s going to be over, you will only get stronger and become more mature. It’s not always necessary to «cut from the shoulder» and tear up established relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Signs that everything can be saved:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Boundaries<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are no obvious unrecoverable wormholes in the relationship (we are talking about the cases when a partner beats, drinks, systematically betrays you, humiliates, tyrannises, and so on). You’re not afraid of your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Presence of feelings<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You both have feelings for each other. This is a very important point that can soften even quite serious contradictions, because loving people really want to be together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Important: we need to distinguish love from anxious attachment and unhealthy dependence. The need for obsessive control, the acute desire to be necessary, the mad fear of losing, «I will die without you»<\/em>… this is not about love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Common values<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is not about the fact that you have to love the same things and walk only by holding your hands together. You may have different musical tastes, styles in clothing, or favorite genres, but there are similarities in fundamental ways. You may have similar views on life, shared values: spiritual, social, and ethical. Values are about the meaning of life in general. Someone may have creativity, another wants children, and someone has professional self-realisation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Balance of 70 to 30 and higher.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The positive things in your relationship outweigh the negative ones. This requires analysis, since these concepts are clearly subjective. That’s how it should be. It’s your relationship, so only your assessment matters. See the good and bad things in the relationship, and see the balance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. You remain a team<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In all the cases, you are able to overcome it together and support each other. Even in the case when you are angry and irritated. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What it looks like: <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n