{"id":4943,"date":"2021-01-03T15:15:29","date_gmt":"2021-01-03T15:15:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=4943"},"modified":"2021-01-03T15:15:29","modified_gmt":"2021-01-03T15:15:29","slug":"the-close-person-is-ill","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/the-close-person-is-ill\/","title":{"rendered":"The close person  is ill"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/malattia-44.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-4944\" width=\"184\" height=\"122\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/malattia-44.jpg 600w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/malattia-44-64x43.jpg 64w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/malattia-44-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/malattia-44-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/malattia-44-500x333.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 184px) 100vw, 184px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Terrible things happen in life. One of them is a serious illness of the close person. The news of a serious, possibly incurable, disease covers everything around with a black cloud and prevents you from breathing freely. Perhaps, there is a long period of hospitals ahead, painful medical procedures, operations or getting used to life with the loss of some important body functions (vision, hearing) &#8212; it changes life for the patient, and for people close to him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is there any way to help in this situation? Yes. Despite the fact that it\u2019s not in your power to remove the illness or suffering of a dear person, knowing mechanism by which psychological reactions occur, it\u2019s possible to ease his suffering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are several stages of accepting the disease and on each of them the help will be different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to help another person in ill:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Stage of shock. Denial. \u00abIt\u2019s impossible! It\u2019s not true! \u00bb.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> give the time to the close person to get used to new information, to realize it;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> be next to him, track the emotional reactions of the close person &#8212; shock can be replaced by another, violent and unpredictable \u00a0reaction.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Stage of aggression and protest. &#171;<em>Why me?&#187;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>give the patient the opportunity to speak out, to express his heavy feelings: pain, fear, indignation, perturbation. Remember that it directed to the fate, not to you or somebody else;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> show that you understand his worries, be in emotional contact with him as much as possible. At this moment a person really needs support!;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> when the flow of emotions fades, \u00a0help to cope with an anger &#8212; offer to draw or model his worries, if it\u2019s appropriate;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The bargaining stage.\u00a0 &#171;<em>I<\/em> <em>promise&#8230; Just let it&#8230;&#187;<\/em> Attempts to negotiate with fate.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>maintain the faith in the best: provide as much positive information as possible; tell the history of the disease with happy end, offer to watch together inspiring films or read books;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> important: make sure that the belief in miracle doesn\u2019t prevent qualified treatment and \u00a0your beloved person doesn\u2019t give up the fight against the disease;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n<div align=\"center\">\n<div class=\"alt-notice\" align=\"center\"><b><font color=\"white\">UNLOCKING MENTAL WELLBEING<\/font><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Self-therapy can be an essential tool for personal growth and self-improvement.<br \/>Browse through our <a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/courses\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><u>courses<\/u><\/a> and see the positive changes they can bring to your life.<\/p>\n<p>You are not sure where to begin?<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">\n<p class=\"product woocommerce add_to_cart_inline example-cart-button\" style=\"border: 0px;\"><a class=\"button product_type_simple add_to_cart_button ajax_add_to_cart\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/psy-tests\/\" rel=\"nofollow\">TAKE A FREE TEST<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"buttons\" style=\"border: 0px;\"><a class=\"button product_type_simple add_to_cart_button ajax_add_to_cart\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspa.typeform.com\/to\/za9nGe8T\" rel=\"nofollow\"><small><u>or get a free consultation<\/u><\/small><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The stage of depression. <em>&#171;How did I deserve it?&#187;<\/em> <em>. <\/em>\u00a0Loss of hope.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>don\u2019t leave a person alone with his worries, be next to him, support, talk about what you feel;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> if the prognosis is\u00a0 disappointing, don\u2019t try to deceive, instill in overly optimistic moods &#8212; otherwise a person will lock himself, feeling that he isn\u2019t understood;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> provide a sick person with the opportunity to communicate with those people he wants \u00a0to interact, \u00a0help to make plans for every day, organize simple spare time;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> offer to go to group therapy, in some cases it may be useful, if\u00a0 the depression is too pronounced &#8212; consult with a doctor, perhaps, antidepressants will be prescribed;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Acceptance stage<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>help with simple daily things and continue to share your support, time, communication.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Not recommended:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>to<strong> <\/strong>use &#171;motivating&#187; phrases from the category: &#171;Pull yourself together! &#171;Keep your head up! &#171;Keep your chin up! &#171;it\u2019s only depressing for a person who is unable to &#171;`pull himself together&#187;;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>to try to ignore the realities and, despite the negative predictions of doctors, to convince the close person that he will recover soon;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to help yourself:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The family members\u2019 worries of a seriously ill person are in tune with the worries of the patient &#8212; that is, the same stages and feelings are relevant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> remember that the whole range of feelings that rages inside you: anger, pain, fear, spite, fault &#8212; this is an adequate response to the situation \u00a0&#8212; it\u2019s normal;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> find an opportunity to express heavy feelings: share them with a friend, cry, allow yourself to get angry and splash out the anger by beating the pillow or shouting;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> if the feelings are unbearable and you don\u2019t know what to do with them \u2013 ask for help from a specialist; The illness of the close person can actualize your own old wounds (injuries) and fears;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> take care of yourself: rest, switching to another activity, walks, regular sleep, proper nutrition, daily routine. If you are a resource for another person, then your reserves of life\u2019s energy must be replenished;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>if the \u00a0relationship with your close person is complicated, it\u2019s not necessary to \u00a0portray sincerity and \u00a0full acceptance through force, it\u2019s better to keep the relationship neutral;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> determine what in this situation you can really do for the close ill person , and what is not in your power to change,\u00a0 realize the boundaries of your responsibility;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> ask for help: sometimes it means to hire a nurse, to ask your close people for specific actions. Don\u2019t burden yourself so as not to break down under the heaviness<\/li><\/ul>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Terrible things happen in life. One of them is a serious illness of the close person. The news of a serious, possibly incurable, disease covers everything around with a black cloud and prevents you from breathing freely. Perhaps, there is a long period of hospitals ahead, painful medical procedures, operations or getting used to life&hellip;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/the-close-person-is-ill\/\" class=\"\" rel=\"bookmark\">Read More &raquo;<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">The close person  is ill<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4944,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,5],"tags":[374,431,550,883,1330,1367,1412],"class_list":["post-4943","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-eng","category-mental-health","tag-death","tag-disease","tag-fear","tag-mindspa","tag-solitude","tag-suffering","tag-terror"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4943","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4943"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4943\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4944"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4943"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4943"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4943"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}