{"id":5177,"date":"2021-02-09T16:49:32","date_gmt":"2021-02-09T16:49:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=5177"},"modified":"2021-02-09T16:49:32","modified_gmt":"2021-02-09T16:49:32","slug":"getting-oneself-together","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/getting-oneself-together\/","title":{"rendered":"Getting Oneself Together"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/impegnarsi54.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5178\" width=\"209\" height=\"126\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/impegnarsi54.jpg 600w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/impegnarsi54-64x38.jpg 64w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/impegnarsi54-300x180.jpg 300w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/impegnarsi54-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/impegnarsi54-500x300.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 209px) 100vw, 209px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes, we need to \u201c<strong>get ourselves together<\/strong>\u201d and act. It just happens. It can be starting to write an article that doesn\u2019t want to be written, cleaning your wardrobe, making an unpleasant call, giving a lecture, taking an exam, visiting a dentist, etc.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The scale of such things might be different, but they have something in common: it\u2019s hard to start doing them because you have no power, desire, confidence, motivation, \u201c<strong>smart<\/strong>\u201d ideas, etc., you are lacking something. Maybe, you have everything, but you are scared, for example. All in all, you feel all over the place, and you need to get yourself together.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Of course, it\u2019s more effective to work on yourself rather than help a close person to get engaged. Nevertheless, there are a few things to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to help someone else:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> make the motivation clear: <em><strong>\u201cWhy do you need this?\u201d<\/strong>.<\/em> When formulating this, the person understands the necessity, which works as a leverage;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> show how to do active (mobilizing) breathing, it works well when your body needs to shake up: the idea is to inhale slower than usual and then to keep your breath. The length of exhaling stays almost the same. The scheme: (inhaling in seconds \u2013 pause \u2013 exhaling) 2(2)+2; 4(2)+4; 4(2)+5; 4(2)+6; 4(2)+7; 4(2)+8; 8(2)+5; 9(4)+5; 10(5)+5;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n<div align=\"center\">\n<div class=\"alt-notice\" align=\"center\"><b><font color=\"white\">UNLOCKING MENTAL WELLBEING<\/font><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Self-therapy can be an essential tool for personal growth and self-improvement.<br \/>Browse through our <a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/courses\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><u>courses<\/u><\/a> and see the positive changes they can bring to your life.<\/p>\n<p>You are not sure where to begin?<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">\n<p class=\"product woocommerce add_to_cart_inline example-cart-button\" style=\"border: 0px;\"><a class=\"button product_type_simple add_to_cart_button ajax_add_to_cart\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/psy-tests\/\" rel=\"nofollow\">TAKE A FREE TEST<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"buttons\" style=\"border: 0px;\"><a class=\"button product_type_simple add_to_cart_button ajax_add_to_cart\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspa.typeform.com\/to\/za9nGe8T\" rel=\"nofollow\"><small><u>or get a free consultation<\/u><\/small><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How to help yourself:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong> <\/strong>ask yourself: <em><strong>Why do I need this?<\/strong><\/em> Articulate the answers, write them down, think about them. Do you really need this? Then, go ahead!<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>plan an action after which you will get up and go to do your thing, such as drinking a cup of coffee, finishing the page, making an exercise;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> if you have a chance, take a contrast shower which helps to tone your body and put yourself into the mood for action. However, if you are in an office, you can keep your hands under hot and cold water in turns;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> come up with a plan, preferably in writing, for example, first, I\u2019ll do &#8230;, then, I\u2019ll do &#8230;, then &#8230; It will help you make up an inner system and finally start to do things;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> say out loud, \u201cI am going to do this\u201d. Not \u201cI want to\u201d or \u201cI need to\u201d, but \u201cI&#8217;m going to\u201d. Wanting is about having a desire, while you are making up an intention that has much more power;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> use a \u201csucker punch\u201d. Some people find it useful to tell themselves jokingly, \u201cCome on, get your shit together!\u201d It\u2019s not offensive, it\u2019s not entirely serious, which is why it has slight motivating effect without the self-deprecating component;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li> stand in the superhero position: stand straight with your shoulders back and your chin slightly raised, your hands on your waist and your legs at shoulder-length. Feel the strength fill you, keep standing in this position for two minutes. Try to take deep and regular breaths. It\u2019s impossible to procrastinate after this position!<\/li><\/ul>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Sometimes, we need to \u201cget ourselves together\u201d and act. It just happens. It can be starting to write an article that doesn\u2019t want to be written, cleaning your wardrobe, making an unpleasant call, giving a lecture, taking an exam, visiting a dentist, etc.\u00a0 The scale of such things might be different, but they have something&hellip;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/getting-oneself-together\/\" class=\"\" rel=\"bookmark\">Read More &raquo;<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Getting Oneself Together<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5178,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,5],"tags":[482,550,659,801,883,1441],"class_list":["post-5177","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-eng","category-mental-health","tag-emotional","tag-fear","tag-help","tag-livingtogether","tag-mindspa","tag-together"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5177","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5177"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5177\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5178"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5177"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5177"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5177"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}