{"id":5886,"date":"2021-07-07T00:58:20","date_gmt":"2021-07-07T00:58:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=5886"},"modified":"2021-07-07T00:58:20","modified_gmt":"2021-07-07T00:58:20","slug":"why-is-it-difficult-to-decide-to-break-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/why-is-it-difficult-to-decide-to-break-up\/","title":{"rendered":"Why is it difficult to decide to break up?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Overall, everything is bad. Your relationship doesn\u2019t make you happy, your status in social networks has been set to \u201cit\u2019s complicated\u201d for a long time. If you weigh good vs bad the latter will definitely prevail, but\u2026 you are still together. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite that, as soon as you think about breaking up you feel cold inside. And once again, you close your eyes on all the evidence and convince yourself that it is just a phase. You just need to have more patience \u2013 change your strategy, approach things differently, take a vacation, have a child, etc. Why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Any breakup is a painful emotional experience. You can\u2019t prepare yourself for it. The thing is that you are not just losing a specific person, but also a great chunk of your dreams, plans, hopes, and illusions \u2013 and this is very painful! Saying goodbye to all of this is even more difficult than to your significant other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It is in human nature to seek stability. Just like a child asks Mom to read the same fairy tale, again and again, dutifully correcting her \u201cmistakes\u201d, for us, for adults, it is important to have something constant, unchanging, and stable in our worldview. And very often we choose our relationships to be this \u201cstable\u201d zone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is important for both: for those whose childhood environment was kind and supportive (they want to bring back that cozy feeling) and for those who\u2019ve never had this feeling of safety and security (they strive to gain this stability that they\u2019ve never had).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And even if we put aside these subconscious needs, people still have a lot of reasons that make breaking up difficult.<\/p>\n\n\n\n