{"id":928915,"date":"2023-05-17T19:17:48","date_gmt":"2023-05-17T19:17:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mindspa.me\/?p=928915"},"modified":"2023-05-17T19:17:51","modified_gmt":"2023-05-17T19:17:51","slug":"we-have-a-problem-but-my-partner-avoids-dealing-with-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/we-have-a-problem-but-my-partner-avoids-dealing-with-it\/","title":{"rendered":"We have a problem but my partner avoids dealing with it"},"content":{"rendered":"
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We want to start by saying that we feel really bad for you. It is hard when in a bad situation your partner seems to be pitching for the other team.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, the fact that you are reading these words indicates that you are eager to try and do something about it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So let us try to figure it out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We will start with separating fiction from reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

More often than not, whenever one\u2019s partner directly or indirectly tries to dodge having to deal with unpleasant situation or misfortunate event \u2013 the lasting impression is:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNow it is clear \u2013 he\/she doesn’t love me!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHe\/She simply does not care!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThis means that I am not a priority!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHe\/She does not care about our relationship!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those inferences are usually false.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There could be many reasons as to why somebody may neglect your need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— There is a communication failure and your request is not coming across.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— Your partner may not be down with the solution you are suggesting (or maybe even pushing) and both of you are bad at meeting in the middle. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

— Personal characteristics of that individual force him or her to shut down and avoid any conflict.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— Heated emotions are too much to deal with for your partner. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Only after all of the above we can shift into \u201cdoes not love\u201d, \u201cdoes not want\u201d, \u201cdoes not need\u201d, and \u201cdoes not care\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, the underlying reason for your partner\u2019s \u201cneglect\u201d — could be mere miscommunication. While you are preparing a eulogy for your love. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Naturally, that approach only drives a wedge between you forcing you further apart. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You need to bring yourself back to reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cf Never mind guesswork, center on facts.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Facts are:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— What person says;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— What person does (or does not);<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHe dodged the conversation\u201d \u2013 that is a fact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHe dodged the conversation that means he does not care about our relationship\u201d \u2013 that is a guesswork. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try to spend at least a couple of days guesswork-free. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

First, this will balance out your condition and clarify your vision of what is going on around you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Send, it should help you clearly express your complaints. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cf Manipulate!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, that is right! We suggest you manipulate your significant other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a rule, the conventional approach is to avoid manipulations by default. However, they do have their merit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example we could replace \u201cwe have a problem, let\u2019s deal with it\u201d with \u201cI have a problem, help me deal with it\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here is a couple of suggestions in that respect:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— \u201cYou know, I find it so difficult to deal with this problem. I decided to hire a therapist. It would mean a lot to me if you could come with me\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

— \u201cThis situation bugs me so much it affects our relationship in a bad way. I would like to improve on that. Here, I found a great class\/course \u2013 let\u2019s take it together. That would mean a lot\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are no guarantees that a person would buy it, or follow suggestions borrowed from the course, but this will go over way better than \u201clet\u2019s go work on our relationship!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cf Take initiative<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Any relationship follows a pattern where each party plays out its own role. As long as you stay in the character \u2013 your partner has no reason to adapt or change anything. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The moment you change your approach \u2013 the pattern is broken which leads to two choices:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— Either your partner follows you and the whole thing gets better;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— Your partner is unable to communicate freely and you will go through a lighthearted break-up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/br>

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