{"id":931302,"date":"2023-06-26T17:03:47","date_gmt":"2023-06-26T17:03:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mindspa.me\/?p=931302"},"modified":"2023-06-26T17:03:51","modified_gmt":"2023-06-26T17:03:51","slug":"how-i-started-dating-a-great-guy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/how-i-started-dating-a-great-guy\/","title":{"rendered":"How I started dating a great guy"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Personal experience of a girl who\u2019s been unlucky in love…<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hi! My name is Emma, and I’m about to tell you how I met my love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For quite a long time I considered myself unlucky. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It seemed that fate wasn\u2019t kind to me and sent just anyone my way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But then I decided that I was old and independent enough not to rely on God\u2019s mercy, and I could take responsibility for MY OWN happiness in MY OWN hands. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

To begin with, I took a break and thought it over: \u201cWhat exactly am I looking for in a partner? What do I want to get out of a relationship? Why do I need it?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Okay, I wasn\u2019t thinking alone, but with my therapist, I won\u2019t hide that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We talked a lot about how I want to feel in a relationship, what is important to me in a person, what values and principles. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We investigated how I choose men (and we got some interesting revelations). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We also discussed the changes that will happen in my life if I get in a really significant relationship, and here, too, all sorts of amusing things popped up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I used dating apps. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I decided not to turn this into a fixation, I set a time limit for myself to devote to love search, and took breaks regularly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I openly told my friends that I was looking for a relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

After all, you never know where and how you meet the one, but it\u2019s in our hands to increase the probability. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I attended events that I found exciting, and visited places that relate to my inner world. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As my conscious request for a relationship was taking shape and internal clutter was clearing up, I noticed that I was changing and the response of others to me was changing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I met different people, talked, and observed how I felt interacting with each of them. I agreed to myself «not to overdo it» with communication, so as not to burn out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I approached dating with curiosity. <\/p>\n\n\n

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Each person is unique, and if you consider meeting them an opportunity to learn something new, it becomes much easier. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I tried to ask them questions to understand how much we are «going in the same direction», whether our values and outlooks on life coincide. I listened attentively and weighed up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

An important criterion for me was how much the person’s actions matched their words. So, I paid attention to the person\u2019s behavior, to the stories they told about their life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After each date, I registered my thoughts and feelings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How did I feel interacting with this person?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Was I tense, constrained, nervous, uncomfortable? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or was it easy, free, relaxed, and safe? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am I interested in this person regardless of whether I’m looking for a relationship or not? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In general, I was having a great time during my \u201csearch\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, one day, at one of the friends parties, I met the man that I am now in a relationship with. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We have common values, common priorities, and I feel warm and calm around him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that’s exactly what I wanted. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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