{"id":375,"date":"2020-04-04T08:42:36","date_gmt":"2020-04-04T08:42:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=375"},"modified":"2020-04-04T08:42:36","modified_gmt":"2020-04-04T08:42:36","slug":"sex-without-a-schedule","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/sex-without-a-schedule\/","title":{"rendered":"Sex without a schedule"},"content":{"rendered":"

While the media cheerfully reports on contraceptives selling out, hinting that all the unreleased energy of the socially isolated is now spent on incredible sex, many couples are faced with the opposite situation. Is there something wrong with them?! Not at all. Let\u2019s figure this out.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Indeed, there are people whose libido elevates significantly during stress. Sex becomes a tool for them for relieving anxiety. On the one hand, that\u2019s good, but if you look closely, that\u2019s a bit meh. Because in this case, sex leaves the pleasure zone and enters the \u201chow to calm down\u201d segment. It would be nice to «return it to its place»; we\u2019ll talk about specific methods a little later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The reverse (and that\u2019s more common in practice) is the decrease in desire and attraction amid strong anxiety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s take a look. A couple is locked up at home. The regular way of life is broken. The information storm is raging all over, and it can affect even the most devil-may-care people. In short, the general environment, to put it mildly, is unfavorable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The internal atmosphere can also vibrate slightly (and for some, even hard), because in a small space, arguments, conflicts, and discontent escalate. And there\u2019s almost nowhere to get resources for romance, pleasure and joint new experiences from.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since most of us weren\u2019t quarantined in 1000-square-meter mansions, but rather in modest apartments, it\u2019s quite logical that the partners quite quickly become each other\u2019s pain in the neck. And that\u2019s normal to get annoyed, confronted with the feeling of \u201cdamn it, what do we even have in common\u201d. It is normal, and in some cases it\u2019s even very useful to begin looking more closely at each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And it\u2019s quite natural that all these things are affecting sex. The quantity, quality and involvement in the process may be reduced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fortunately, there are ways to influence the sex life even in these tough times. <\/p>\n\n\n

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First of all, it\u2019s important to keep going on dates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, you can do this even if you are «locked up» at home. Dressing up for dinner, cooking something special (together or for each other), listening to music (or \u201cattending\u201d online concerts), lighting candles, carefully choosing a movie (as if you were going to a movie theater) and trying to switch off from errands and concerns, giving each other the loving looks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, flirt. Send each other special messages from another room, hug and kiss your partner, snuggle up to him outside the bedroom, give him hints.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, extend your foreplay. Yes, this is the moment to take your time with it. And it definitely doesn\u2019t have to precede intercourse. It\u2019s fun to create a so-called semi-sex zone. In other words, you\u2019re touching, stroking, playing with each other, but don\u2019t get to the action right away. And you can actually stop at any moment and not finish it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A shower or a bath together where you\u2019d just relax, laze about, give each other a sensual wash, a massage using oils or special sex candles (these candles burn at a low temperature and you can use them to create the atmosphere), languid kisses \u2013 the kind you used to have during the first few months of your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fourthly, try new things, using simple and available tools.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Look around your apartment. A lot of interesting places for sex can be found there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t wait for an occasion. If you have an opportunity (no kids, relatives), you can start (and continue) teasing without waiting until you\u2019re both in bed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Switch your roles. If, for example, you\u2019re usually the passive party, this is the time to take charge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Use different textures to change up the touching sensations. For example, lace gloves, a feather, oil, ice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Explore each other\u2019s bodies. Change the scenario of the game: if your foreplay usually begins with kisses and gradually descends below, then a wonderful move would be to change the sequence. However, it\u2019s good to adhere to the «from peripherals to the center\u201d rule. That\u2019s because if your foreplay immediately engages the genitals or the nipples, everything else will fade into the background<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Blindfolds, imitation of handcuffs, the \u201cyou can look but you can\u2019t touch\u201d games \u2013 all of the above can seriously heat things up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sex toys. There are so many choices: vibrators, special lubes and gels, special foreplay trinkets. Basically, try it all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What you definitely shouldn\u2019t do:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Approach sex as a routine, like: we ate our borsch, we watched TV, we had a quickie.<\/li>
  2. Use sex to relieve anxiety. It\u2019s best to work with it using other strategies \u2013 they\u2019re more effective and less risky.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

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