{"id":4679,"date":"2020-12-03T07:47:16","date_gmt":"2020-12-03T07:47:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=4679"},"modified":"2020-12-03T07:47:16","modified_gmt":"2020-12-03T07:47:16","slug":"how-to-talk-about-a-breakup","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/how-to-talk-about-a-breakup\/","title":{"rendered":"How to talk about a breakup?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Breakups are different. This guide is for those who are breaking up a relationship that had a lot of good things, but something has changed: those can be circumstances, feelings, or just you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is no painless separation, just leave the idea of making everything easy.  However, you need to avoid having the burden of breaking up because of pity or fear.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Don’t expect it to be easy.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Parting is always difficult. If there was a lot of light in the relationship then the memories of this can be kept as invisible fetters. If there were a lot of bad things, you may suffer from anxieties. It won’t be easy, so you have to do it from the point where you are now. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think about the fact that we often have to go through unpleasant, uncomfortable things. Think about the dentist, hair removal, and tax returns. However, we are still alive.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Indicate the reason for the separation.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the breakup happens «in a good way», and you have no doubt of the adequacy of partner (for example, a person has no inclination to manipulation, revealing speeches, and so on), you can talk about the reasons; however, you need to avoid using shady constructions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You need to do it in a very specific way. For example, the phrase «we should break up» raises more questions than it explains the reason. Who should? Why would it be better?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Use the following clear phrases: «my feelings have changed», «I no longer see a future together», «we can’t agree on such important issues for me.» <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Important!<\/strong> Remember that in special cases (any kind of abuse), you have the right not to explain anything.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Lower your emotions.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The moment of parting is complicated itself, and you should not add drama to it. It’s better to talk about parting at low emotional speed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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