{"id":4688,"date":"2020-12-04T14:56:32","date_gmt":"2020-12-04T14:56:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=4688"},"modified":"2020-12-04T14:56:32","modified_gmt":"2020-12-04T14:56:32","slug":"6-therapeutic-exercises-for-counter-dependent-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/6-therapeutic-exercises-for-counter-dependent-people\/","title":{"rendered":"6 therapeutic exercises for counter-dependent people"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/contro-dipendenza-6.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-4689\" width=\"250\" height=\"167\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/contro-dipendenza-6.jpg 600w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/contro-dipendenza-6-64x43.jpg 64w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/contro-dipendenza-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/contro-dipendenza-6-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/contro-dipendenza-6-500x333.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 250px) 100vw, 250px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Counter-dependency is a defensive behavior, when a person is afraid of intimacy and avoids it. In other words, such people are ready to avoid relationships no matter what.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are the main signs of a tendency to this trend:\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Typical feelings<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>fear of coming closer together;<\/li><li>anxiety (usually chronic);<\/li><li>fear that I might hurt you, find out your weak points, and hit you.\u00a0<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Basic and typical thoughts<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><em>&#171;I don&#8217;t need anyone&#187;;<\/em><\/li><li><em>&#171;In a relationship, I will lose myself&#187;;<\/em><\/li><li><em>&#171;If a relationship has to happen, they&#8217;ll find me&#187;;<\/em><\/li><li><em>&#171;There is no point in these conversations about feelings&#187;;<\/em><\/li><li><em>&#171;There are no worthy people in this world&#187;.<\/em><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Typical behavior:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>avoidance of relationships;<\/li><li>avoiding emotional intimacy (talking about feelings, etc.) in contact;<\/li><li>the tendency to occupy yourself with a huge number of things and hobbies, so there is not enough space for a relationship;<\/li><li>making high demands on the partner;<\/li><li>the tendency to run away after the first date or first sex without explaining the reasons to another person;<\/li><li>the tendency to choose unavailable partners;\u00a0<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Counter-dependence can be corrected with the help of psychotherapy (we also have a course in our app called &#171;Counterdependency&#187;). In addition to working in this direction, you can support yourself with hobbies aimed at stabilising and forming a balance.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>1. Meditations<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A great way to separate yourself from the world of people, to be alone with yourself, such a personal paradise for a counter-dependent person. Now there is a large selection of different meditations for every taste. You can start with something small, just for a minute, and gradually increase the duration, complexity, saturation.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2. Running<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>An excellent imitation of the escape that all counter-addicted people really want. When you run, there is a sense of freedom. And it&#8217;s very valuable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And this desire will appear less often if you implement it on the physical level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3. Stretching<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s often found that people with a counter-dependent tendency have a lot of restrictions in their body. It happens due to excessive tension, thick and sticky stress and anxiety.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By helping your body become more plastic and flexible, you will simultaneously trigger changes in your emotional state and thinking.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>4. Playing wind instruments<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Playing music on wind instruments helps to remove the throat and diaphragm blocks, which are frequent companions of the &#171;elusive people&#187;, because of the tendency to silence, concealing, and suppressing.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In addition, wind instruments require special breathing, which in turn reduces anxiety well.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>5. Growing flowers<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or anything else: fruits, vegetables, greens.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Counter-addicted people often lack patience, so watching something grow gradually from a small seed planted in fertile soil will become a useful and therapeutic experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>6. Creating and composing fragrances&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are master classes and schools for composing your own fragrances.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is a great option for stabilising and creating a different mood.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, you can create a fragrance that will testify to your freedom and independence, and a special smell that relieves anxiety.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We hope that you will like some of the lessons. Take care of yourself!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Counter-dependency is a defensive behavior, when a person is afraid of intimacy and avoids it. In other words, such people are ready to avoid relationships no matter what.&nbsp; Here are the main signs of a tendency to this trend:\u00a0 Typical feelings fear of coming closer together; anxiety (usually chronic); fear that I might hurt you,&hellip;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/6-therapeutic-exercises-for-counter-dependent-people\/\" class=\"\" rel=\"bookmark\">Leer m\u00e1s &raquo;<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">6 therapeutic exercises for counter-dependent people<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4689,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[34,102,482,851,883,1178,1361],"class_list":["post-4688","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mental-health","tag-addiction","tag-anxiety","tag-emotional","tag-meditations","tag-mindspa","tag-report","tag-stretching"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4688","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4688"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4688\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4689"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4688"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4688"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4688"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}