{"id":4949,"date":"2021-01-05T15:16:43","date_gmt":"2021-01-05T15:16:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=4949"},"modified":"2021-01-05T15:16:43","modified_gmt":"2021-01-05T15:16:43","slug":"how-to-learn-to-say-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/how-to-learn-to-say-no\/","title":{"rendered":"How to learn to say no"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/dire-di-no-49.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-4950\" width=\"185\" height=\"123\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/dire-di-no-49.jpg 600w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/dire-di-no-49-64x43.jpg 64w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/dire-di-no-49-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/dire-di-no-49-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/dire-di-no-49-500x333.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 185px) 100vw, 185px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>How often do you regret &nbsp;that instead of a firm &#171;no&#187;, you just were able to mumble: &#171;Well, yes, of course I can&#187;?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then, of course, there was a goofy waste of time, missed opportunities, irritability and fatigue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The inability to refuse brings confusion and torment to our lives because of the eternal question to ourselves: &#171;Well, why do I take what I do not need again?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The \u00a0difficulties with failure are different:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>fear of fault: I refuse, and they\u2019ll be offended<\/li><li>anxious attachment: I say no and I&#8217;ll be disliked<\/li><li>dependence on someone else&#8217;s opinion: I refuse and they\u2019ll think badly about me.<\/li><li>&#171;Good Man&#187; syndrome: to refuse is rudely and impolitely<\/li><li>self-doubt and doubt in people: I&#8217;m going to say no, and then they&#8217;re not going to help me either.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Each of them (listed problems) is a good reason to work with yourself. But our advice will not be superfluous, and even will\u00a0 help a lot.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Take a break<\/strong><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>You don&#8217;t have to give an instant answer. Don&#8217;t rush it. Even if the issue requires an urgent solution, you still have 5-10 seconds. This time is enough to calm the first altruistic impulse and call for the help of common sense. If the issue is not urgent, ask to wait till the evening. It\u2019s better \u00a0refuse later than to immediately agree and painfully regret it.<\/p>\n\n\n<div align=\"center\">\n<div class=\"alt-notice\" align=\"center\"><b><font color=\"white\">UNLOCKING MENTAL WELLBEING<\/font><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Self-therapy can be an essential tool for personal growth and self-improvement.<br \/>Browse through our <a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/courses\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><u>courses<\/u><\/a> and see the positive changes they can bring to your life.<\/p>\n<p>You are not sure where to begin?<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">\n<p class=\"product woocommerce add_to_cart_inline example-cart-button\" style=\"border: 0px;\"><a class=\"button product_type_simple add_to_cart_button ajax_add_to_cart\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/psy-tests\/\" rel=\"nofollow\">TAKE A FREE TEST<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"buttons\" style=\"border: 0px;\"><a class=\"button product_type_simple add_to_cart_button ajax_add_to_cart\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspa.typeform.com\/to\/za9nGe8T\" rel=\"nofollow\"><small><u>or get a free consultation<\/u><\/small><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2. Substantiate<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There&#8217;s a good reason behind your refusal. Just politely explain your &#171;no&#187;. But don\u2019t start with words \u201cExcuse me, but&#8230;\u201d, because this\u00a0 enunciation is inviting the interlocutor to put pressure on you and quickly get consent. You&#8217;re \u00a0protecting your time and your personal boundaries, so there&#8217;s nothing to apologize for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3. Start with gratitude<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If it\u2019s very important for you to look polite and nice person, start your refusal with the words of gratitude for \u00a0the trust. \u00a0&#171;Thank you, I&#8217;m very pleased that you have reached out to me, but ,unfortunately, in the next two weeks I will be very busy.&#187; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>4.<\/strong> <strong>Sympathize<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Are you afraid of being thought as an insensitive and selfish person? Start your rejection with empathy. &#171;Yes, it&#8217;s not easy for you now, so much\u00a0 has come on you. I\u2019m really sorry, but \u00a0I can&#8217;t do it, I already have plans that I can&#8217;t cancel.&#187; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>5<\/strong>. <strong>Train yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is impossible for one day to turn from a reliable person into an iron and resilient one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Saying&nbsp; \u201cno\u201d has to be gradually learned. Try to deny the little things first. &#8216;I can&#8217;t lend you my new dress &#8212; I&#8217;ll go to this party in it.&#8217; &#171;No, I can&#8217;t give you a ride home today &#8212; after work, I&#8217;m going on an urgent business.&#187; If you learn to refuse on a minor occasion, it will be easier to say \u201cno\u201d in more serious situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember that adequate people normally perceive refusals and know how to build their lives so as not to die without someone&#8217;s help.<br><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How often do you regret &nbsp;that instead of a firm &#171;no&#187;, you just were able to mumble: &#171;Well, yes, of course I can&#187;? Then, of course, there was a goofy waste of time, missed opportunities, irritability and fatigue. The inability to refuse brings confusion and torment to our lives because of the eternal question to&hellip;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/how-to-learn-to-say-no\/\" class=\"\" rel=\"bookmark\">Leer m\u00e1s &raquo;<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">How to learn to say no<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4950,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[482,535,549,550,883,964,1246],"class_list":["post-4949","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mental-health","tag-emotional","tag-failure","tag-fatigue","tag-fear","tag-mindspa","tag-opportunity","tag-say-no"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4949","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4949"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4949\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4950"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4949"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4949"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4949"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}