{"id":5199,"date":"2021-02-14T14:04:55","date_gmt":"2021-02-14T14:04:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=5199"},"modified":"2021-02-14T14:04:55","modified_gmt":"2021-02-14T14:04:55","slug":"drawing-out-a-taciturn-person","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/drawing-out-a-taciturn-person\/","title":{"rendered":"Drawing Out a Taciturn Person"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/persona-taciturna-59.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5200\" width=\"204\" height=\"136\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/persona-taciturna-59.jpg 600w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/persona-taciturna-59-64x43.jpg 64w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/persona-taciturna-59-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/persona-taciturna-59-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/persona-taciturna-59-500x333.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 204px) 100vw, 204px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Today, we won\u2019t talk about people who like to give others a silent treatment, but rather about those who are in general short-spoken and taciturn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In fact, a closed and untalkative person is not necessarily sulky or secluded. Usually, taciturn people are nice, polite, and attentive, but they don\u2019t rush to talk about themselves, their views, or feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If your partner is like that, while you are an open and emotional person, most likely, it\u2019s not always easy to be in this relationship for you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We suggest that you don\u2019t attack your untalkative friend demanding that they pour their heart out, but first figure out the reasons of their restraint, which would allow you to develop an appropriate line of behavior.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Why is he\/she silent?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are many reasons for keeping quiet, so your actions will be different in every individual case:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><em>Upbringing<\/em>: If your partner comes from a family where everyone is frugal with words, or grew up in a house, where restraint and control over one\u2019s emotions were appreciated, you should probably just accept your partner the way he or she is and respect their peculiarities.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><em>Old Wounds<\/em>: Your partner was once betrayed and lied to, so now he or she doesn\u2019t want to open up to avoid being vulnerable and showing their weaknesses. In this case, you\u2019ll have to be very patient and caring so that your partner learns to trust others again (we will discuss it later).<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><em>Insecurity<\/em>: Being short-spoken might stem from having a low self-esteem. For example, your partner might be afraid of looking stupid, boring, or even tongue-tied in a conversation. In this case, it\u2019s important for you to be a perceptive interlocutor and support your partner\u2019s attempts to have a dialog with you, even if the topic is insignificant.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n<div align=\"center\">\n<div class=\"alt-notice\" align=\"center\"><b><font color=\"white\">UNLOCKING MENTAL WELLBEING<\/font><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Self-therapy can be an essential tool for personal growth and self-improvement.<br \/>Browse through our <a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/courses\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><u>courses<\/u><\/a> and see the positive changes they can bring to your life.<\/p>\n<p>You are not sure where to begin?<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">\n<p class=\"product woocommerce add_to_cart_inline example-cart-button\" style=\"border: 0px;\"><a class=\"button product_type_simple add_to_cart_button ajax_add_to_cart\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/psy-tests\/\" rel=\"nofollow\">TAKE A FREE TEST<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"buttons\" style=\"border: 0px;\"><a class=\"button product_type_simple add_to_cart_button ajax_add_to_cart\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspa.typeform.com\/to\/za9nGe8T\" rel=\"nofollow\"><small><u>or get a free consultation<\/u><\/small><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>What to do?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First, let\u2019s discuss what you shouldn\u2019t do.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No matter why your partner is so taciturn, you are bound to fail if you try to force him or her to speak or try to shake them up. This person needs his or her \u201csecrecy\u201d for protection, which is why any \u201cmilitant\u201d action will force them to resist you even more and make them want to hide. <em>\u201cWe need to talk\u201d, \u201cLet&#8217;s be honest, come on\u201d, <\/em>etc. is a very bad way to start the conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Now, what will help?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Acceptance<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Taciturnity is almost always based on the fear of being misunderstood, rejected, and lonely. This is why your goal is to create the atmosphere of love, trust, and full acceptance. No reproaching, blaming, lecturing, or criticizing. It\u2019s important to make the person understand that you appreciate and love them the way they are, that their taciturnity doesn\u2019t make them worse or better than others. Give your partner time to thaw out. He or she hasn\u2019t always been so short-spoken, so they won\u2019t open at once either, which is why you need to be patient.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>The rules of communication<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A relationship is impossible without communication. However, when it comes to an untalkative person, it\u2019s necessary to create the safest possible environment for them:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Share the topic you would like to discuss with your partner in advance.<\/li><li>Choose the place where he or she won\u2019t feel tense when talking.<\/li><li>During a conversation, do not rush your partner, give them time to think about their answers.<\/li><li>Use \u201cI-messages\u201d so that your partner understands that you aren\u2019t blaming him or her but rather trying to be sincere: <em>\u201cI am worried about us talking so little\u201d<\/em> (instead of <em>\u201cYou are always silent, it\u2019s suspicious\u201d<\/em>), <em>\u201cI feel sad and scared when you stay silent for a long time\u201d <\/em>(instead of <em>\u201cYou don\u2019t seem worried and you don&#8217;t care, people usually don\u2019t act like that\u201d<\/em>).<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Go epistolary<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why not? Give it a try. Many reserved people find it more peaceful to first express their thoughts on paper (in a chat, in a messenger), than face to face. Offer your partner this type of communication (for some time) and, maybe, it will make it easier for him or her to open up to you and become intimate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>A joint activity<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It has been noted that people find it easier to talk when they are doing the same thing rather than when they are face to face. Try to cook, wash a car, or collect a puzzle together and talk.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When doing something together, your partner might become distracted from their fears and open up to you and start talking about something personal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being together with a person whose inner world is always shielded by <em>\u201cEverything is fine\u201d <\/em>and <em>\u201cI&#8217;m okay\u201d <\/em>is never easy. However, if you have got the necessary love, patience, and wisdom, you will find the keys to this \u201cfortress of taciturnity\u201d.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today, we won\u2019t talk about people who like to give others a silent treatment, but rather about those who are in general short-spoken and taciturn. In fact, a closed and untalkative person is not necessarily sulky or secluded. Usually, taciturn people are nice, polite, and attentive, but they don\u2019t rush to talk about themselves, their&hellip;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/drawing-out-a-taciturn-person\/\" class=\"\" rel=\"bookmark\">Leer m\u00e1s &raquo;<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Drawing Out a Taciturn Person<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5200,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[25,552,591,883,1299,1384],"class_list":["post-5199","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mental-health","tag-accept-yourself","tag-fears","tag-friends","tag-mindspa","tag-silence","tag-taciturn"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5199","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5199"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5199\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5200"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5199"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5199"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5199"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}