{"id":523464,"date":"2021-04-17T09:34:35","date_gmt":"2021-04-17T09:34:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=523464"},"modified":"2021-04-17T09:34:35","modified_gmt":"2021-04-17T09:34:35","slug":"i-am-afraid-of-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/i-am-afraid-of-people\/","title":{"rendered":"I am afraid of people"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Nowadays, we encounter social anxiety way too often. Every third request addressed to psychologists deals with this phenomenon in one way or the other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For people who are closely familiar with this \u201ccreature\u201d, life is quite hard, because this controlling \u201clady<\/strong>\u201d requires absolutely everything to be coordinated with her. And her verdicts are harsh and categorical.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You see that group of people looking at you? They are probably discussing why you dressed up in this skirt. With your legs!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your boss is reading your report with such a face … It is very clear: he thinks that you are an idiot!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Present at the meeting? All your colleagues will listen to your stutter \u2013 just sit quietly. They will make all the decisions without your help.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, the waiter brought you a lukewarm soup, with patches of grease floating in it. And the spoon is dirty. And he is not paying attention to you. So, what — now you will make a scene out of it? You are going to protest out loud? Chill out, we both know that you will never speak up.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Attend a party? God forbid! There are people there. Lots of them. Violent people — dancing, having fun, they will drag you along with them. Never. The best party is in a chair with a cup of tea and The Count of Monte Cristo…<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, what is social anxiety?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Social anxiety is irrational illogical fear that is provoked by almost any kind of social interaction. As if some internal alarm is sounding \u201cSOS! People are here! I need to cover and hide!\u201d It is useless to turn to logic in such situations, because while the alarm is sounding \u2013 no reasoning can help you. You cannot consciously manage irrational fears. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the same time, people you\u2019ve been living together with their anxiety know very well that their fears have no basis. They often feel embarrassed that they are not able to overcome or even to control it.  This is the kind of \u201cmalady\u201d that you can live with, but the quality of your life goes down considerably. Any kind of social interaction, that is necessary for personal and professional growth is out of the question. Not only you are not able to grow and develop \u2013 even a simple visit to a store or to a restaurant is impossible without some interaction with other people!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To summarize, you have social anxiety if:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n