{"id":5453,"date":"2021-04-05T16:52:43","date_gmt":"2021-04-05T16:52:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=5453"},"modified":"2021-04-05T16:52:43","modified_gmt":"2021-04-05T16:52:43","slug":"when-good-girl-unhappy-girl","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/when-good-girl-unhappy-girl\/","title":{"rendered":"When good girl = unhappy girl"},"content":{"rendered":"
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It\u2019s so often that we hear sad things from people about how hard they try, how they follow all the necessary rules, how they say no to themselves for the sake of others, and for some reason, they only get negativity instead of happiness and stable relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is the fault of toxic and most importantly, unrealistic ideas about life which make up a so-called \u201cgood girl<\/strong>\u201d syndrome. Let\u2019s see whether you have it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Read the next statements carefully and \u201capply<\/strong>\u201d them to yourself and your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.<\/strong>Good, correct behavior is rewarded, that\u2019s fair. Sooner or later, all efforts will bear fruit.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. <\/strong>Other people\u2019s interests must be put above your own.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. <\/strong>If you put yourself\u00a0 first, it\u2019s selfishness.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4.<\/strong> Selfishness is very bad. Nobody likes selfish people.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5.<\/strong> Better to do as they say than to object.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6.<\/strong> A bad peace is better than a good war. We must avoid conflicts by any means necessary.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. <\/strong>If a person important to me did something wrong, then they had a good reason. And my task is to accept it, because love means forgiving for everything.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. <\/strong>The most important thing is taking care of your loved ones.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. <\/strong>It\u2019s very important to constantly praise a person. Even for every little thing. Even if there\u2019s nothing to praise, you need to find a reason. This way, you\u2019ll become support and inspiration for him.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. <\/strong>Bad emotions don\u2019t suit you. Anger, irritation, displeasure must be hidden.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

11.<\/strong> Even if you are in a bad mood, you need to pretend that you are perfectly fine. Even if you don\u2019t like this or that person it\u2019s necessary not to show it. Even if something happens in the relationship that you don\u2019t want, be patient and smile.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

12.<\/strong> When a loved one suffers or derails his life, your task is to save them by all means. A kind word, affection, understanding and acceptance can heal all ailments and make anyone happy.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

13.<\/strong> The most important thing is to understand how other people function, what makes them happy, and how to make them love me.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

14.<\/strong> If they don\u2019t approve of me, I feel very bad and anxious.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

15.<\/strong> The most important thing is to be needed.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you recognize yourself and your approach to life in these statements? If yes, then the good girl syndrome is your problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why is it bad?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Firstly, this perfection is unattainable. And you will always feel that you\u2019re not good enough, not beautiful enough, not right enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, it\u2019s not possible to make everyone around you happy — people are too different.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, it\u2019s not possible to be happy by ignoring your emotions and feelings, and your unrealized desires and unsaid works, unfulfilled expectations are a great confirmation of that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fourthly, people with the \u201cgood girl\u201d syndrome are often used. This is an axiom. If you are doing your best to bend down, please, adjust to others whilst forgetting about yourself, then there will definitely be those nearby who will use that without giving anything in return .<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What can you do? Get rid of it and learn to communicate, taking your own interests into account as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The course \u201cHappy girl<\/strong>\u201d would be perfect for that. Search for it in the \u201cCourses<\/strong>\u201d section. There, you\u2019d be able to figure out with the ideas about convenience that get in the way of happiness, find a balance between yourself and others, grow up.<\/p>\n\n\n

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