{"id":5712,"date":"2021-05-12T16:32:18","date_gmt":"2021-05-12T16:32:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=5712"},"modified":"2021-05-12T16:32:18","modified_gmt":"2021-05-12T16:32:18","slug":"how-to-survive-a-difficult-conversation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/how-to-survive-a-difficult-conversation\/","title":{"rendered":"How to survive a difficult conversation?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/conversazione-163.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5713\" width=\"161\" height=\"107\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/conversazione-163.jpg 600w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/conversazione-163-64x43.jpg 64w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/conversazione-163-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/conversazione-163-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/conversazione-163-500x333.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 161px) 100vw, 161px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are one of those people who dread difficult conversations, then this article is for you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We created a step-by-step plan that will help you to diminish your negative emotions and to strengthen your resolve.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>First and foremost is your position.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you have a clear, specific, well thought through position that you feel good and confident about \u2013 you accomplished 70% of your task.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If your position is unclear, flimsy, staggering back and forth \u2013 you first need to figure out what your message is, and only then start a conversation.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You must have firm and specific answers to these questions:&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>What do I want to say?&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>What do I want to convey?&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>About what do I want to inform?&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>What do I want to ask about?&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>What is my basis?&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>What are my assumptions?&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The second important rule is to have a plan.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This rule is especially important for those who tend to get lost in thoughts and drown in emotions.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Create a bullet point plan for your message. It should be short, clear, and logical.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Important! All the statements and messages should be about you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In general, if your goal is to push a person to do something that they don\u2019t want to do, you can forget about it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The third rule is to have supporting arguments.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Think about what arguments you can use. In conversations when you are looking to find a mutual understanding, you need arguments. In breakup conversations \u2013 you don\u2019t necessarily need them: they may even hurt you, since they create an opening for counterarguments.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Think about what you will rely on, how you will appeal, and how to react to the answers of the other party.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The fourth rule is to know what your success looks like.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Define what would be the indicator of a successful conversation. The answer to the question \u201cwhat do I want as a consequence of this conversation\u201d will help you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The fifth rule \u2013 the finish line.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Think about when the conversation will be over. How will you know when it is time to stop?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The sixth rule \u2013 the best defense is being prepared.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are afraid of your counterpart, think about how you will \u201cretreat\u201d in case they \u201cattack\u201d.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember, you can always leave the conversation and postpone it until a better opportunity comes up.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The seventh rule \u2013 emotional safety.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You know what may happen to you during difficult conversations, therefore you can think about how to deal with it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Identify the main difficult emotions, write them down.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Think about how you can reduce each one of them (you can use our section \u201cPsychosutra\u201d).&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Practice. For example, if I get angry, I will breathe like this. If I want to cry, I will use this trick.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The eighth rule \u2013 accepting your emotions.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do not try to turn off your anxiety and nervousness. It is impossible \u2013 we always worry before difficult conversations.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your task is to reduce the intensity of your emotions.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Breathe, relax your body, jump around, do squats, listen to inspiring music.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The ninth rule is a ritual.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Think of a small ritual or a charm. A charm is better \u2013 you can keep it unnoticed in your hand, and it will give you more support.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The tenth rule is self-support.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cheer yourself up. Tell yourself that you are doing great &#8212; it is cool to decide to have a difficult conversation. 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