{"id":5883,"date":"2021-07-05T23:49:56","date_gmt":"2021-07-05T23:49:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=5883"},"modified":"2021-07-05T23:49:56","modified_gmt":"2021-07-05T23:49:56","slug":"internal-critic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/internal-critic\/","title":{"rendered":"Internal critic"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cIt won\u2019t work\u201d. \u201cThis is not for you\u201d. \u201cYou are going to fail as usual!\u201d \u201cEveryone thought that you were an idiot\u201d. \u201cThey will stop inviting you after this\u201d\u2026<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sounds familiar? We thought so. This is the voice of your internal critic, who relentlessly and tirelessly is whispering you phrases that cause you to experience shame, guilt, and doubts about your worth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your internal critic is always unjust. If you give him too much power, he can completely destroy your confidence and your ability to realistically evaluate your strengths. As a result, the quality of your life will get worse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Who is he and what does he need from you?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

In essence, your internal critic is a part of your psyche that was formed during childhood. How he will turn out depends on your childhood experience \u2013 what did you hear about yourself when you were little.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Is this your voice? In reality, no. A child cannot evaluate their own behavior yet. She simply doesn\u2019t have enough experience and judgment to know what is right and what is wrong. The child takes clues from the caregivers: parents, grandparents, teachers, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the words you hear have a lot of negative predictions (\u201cyou will never be successful!<\/em>\u201d), strong judgments about you, not just your actions (\u201cyou are stupid since you couldn\u2019t solve this problem!\u201d), <\/em>labels (\u201cclumsy\u201d, \u201cthoughtless\u201d, \u201clike a bull in a china shop\u201d, \u201cmessy\u201d) \u2013 <\/em>then your internal critic will soak up all of this. In adulthood, these phrases will be sounding in your head paralyzing your life energy and self-confidence. If you focus on the voice of your own internal critic, perhaps you will notice that it is the voice of your Dad, Mom, or grandma\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What to do if this critic settled down firmly in your head and negatively evaluates your every action?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.<\/strong> Call him out. Analyze when he becomes especially active. What is his \u201csignature\u201d? What phrases does he use, what emotions and feelings do you experience, and in what situations does this usually happen?
2.<\/strong> Try to recall \u2013 who used to speak like this? Where did these words come from into your mind? Who is the real author of these words? Remind yourself that these words are not yours — then they will lose their power over you.
3. <\/strong>Think of a replacement for the phrases that undermine your confidence. For example, instead of \u201cas usual, I failed\u201d intentionally choose \u201cI can always try again\u201d.
4.<\/strong> Start keeping a diary of your achievements. When you begin noticing your successes you will focus your attention on good things. In this case, your internal critic simply doesn\u2019t have a chance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When your internal critic gets \u201cre-educated\u201d and turns into an internal supporter \u2013 your life will be much more pleasant!<\/p>\n\n\n

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\u201cIt won\u2019t work\u201d. \u201cThis is not for you\u201d. \u201cYou are going to fail as usual!\u201d \u201cEveryone thought that you were an idiot\u201d. \u201cThey will stop inviting you after this\u201d\u2026 Sounds familiar? We thought so. This is the voice of your internal critic, who relentlessly and tirelessly is whispering you phrases that cause you to experience… Leer m\u00e1s »Internal critic<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5884,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,5],"tags":[37,289,354,550,722,883,1235,1330],"class_list":["post-5883","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-eng","category-mental-health","tag-admiration","tag-confidence","tag-criticisms","tag-fear","tag-insecurity","tag-mindspa","tag-safety","tag-solitude"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5883","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5883"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5883\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5884"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5883"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5883"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5883"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}