{"id":9747,"date":"2021-12-22T19:09:59","date_gmt":"2021-12-22T19:09:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=9747"},"modified":"2021-12-22T19:09:59","modified_gmt":"2021-12-22T19:09:59","slug":"how-to-respond-when-someone-cares-too-much","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/how-to-respond-when-someone-cares-too-much\/","title":{"rendered":"How to respond when someone \u201ccares\u201d too much?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Irini asks a question in a Facebook group: \u201cMy son is 32 years old. We live separately. I only ask him to call me when he returns home in the evening. I do not understand why it makes him angry. What am I doing wrong? I’m just worried, and I can’t sleep without his call. Is it so difficult to call? What’s the big deal?»<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oh, those caring parents of adult children … A person may be over 20 (30, 40) — and their mother still says what to wear, where to go, whom to meet, how to cook, how to build their life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cCall me as soon as you get there! And when you’re in the car. And before leaving!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cPut on your hat! And what are you — going out without a scarf? In this weather?»<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt’s time for you to get married and have a baby! I’m worried about you — you will end up single with your job! «<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou need to eat chicken soup every day \u2013 remember when you had gastritis when you were in the 10th grade? I found your receipt from McDonald’s. Are you eating this junk food?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Our parents love us, it’s true. But boundaries for love and care are necessary. Otherwise, you may feel suffocated and constrained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What phrases can you use in response to overprotectiveness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 «I know that you are trying to take care of me, but this form of caring does not suit me.»<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The phrase is very clear, inoffensive, and sets the necessary boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 «I am already an adult, and I will decide for myself»<\/p>\n\n\n

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This is a reminder to the parents to return to the «adult-adult» format, not «adult-helpless child».<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 «I’m sorry that you have different expectations, but for me, it is better like this»<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This phrase expresses an understanding of a different point of view but identifies your priorities unambiguously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 «Mom, it was your choice, and I am making mine.» «For me, please only do what I ask you to do.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Use this phrase when your parents say that they did this and that for you, and now you must do as they say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Mom (Dad), I understand your concern, but I ask you to respect my decision and my choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 I value your participation in my life, but I ask you not to do something for me without my consent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These phrases do not push away your loved one, but at the same time, they indicate that only you can make decisions about your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2022 Mom, this is my life, not yours.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Irini asks a question in a Facebook group: \u201cMy son is 32 years old. We live separately. I only ask him to call me when he returns home in the evening. I do not understand why it makes him angry. What am I doing wrong? I’m just worried, and I can’t sleep without his call.… Leer m\u00e1s »How to respond when someone \u201ccares\u201d too much?<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":9746,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[51,102,125,192,209,808,883,942],"class_list":["post-9747","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-eng","tag-affection","tag-anxiety","tag-attentions","tag-calm","tag-caution","tag-love","tag-mindspa","tag-nuisance"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9747","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9747"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9747\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9746"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9747"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9747"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9747"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}