{"id":4968,"date":"2021-01-08T16:58:33","date_gmt":"2021-01-08T16:58:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=4968"},"modified":"2021-01-08T16:58:33","modified_gmt":"2021-01-08T16:58:33","slug":"preparing-for-a-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/preparing-for-a-date\/","title":{"rendered":"Preparing for a date"},"content":{"rendered":"
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There are people who feel no anxiety whatsoever before going on a date. There are also those who experience all sorts of trepidation, from slight excitement to full-fledged paralyzing panic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are the latter, let\u2019s try to lower your anxiety. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Our goal is to shift your focus to yourself. Usually, worrying a lot before a date means that you are fixated on making the right impression, on \u201cselling yourself\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. What to talk about?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we are on a date, we get to know each other better and find common things. Nevertheless, sometimes we feel so worried during the date that no questions come to mind. It happens, and it’s alright. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can make a list of topics for discussion in advance: what you\u2019d like to tell about yourself, what you\u2019d like to know about your date, etc. Most importantly, think about the things you personally like to talk about. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Naturally, no need to take out a piece of paper and adhere to it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The goal of this practice is to simply systematize the thoughts in your head and relieve the tension associated with \u201cWhat will we even talk about?!\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n

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2. What do you want to be like today?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pick the clothes that will make you feel confident and comfortable. Sometimes, we want to make an impression and wear a dress that\u2019s too uncomfortable, or high heels that make it hard to walk, or a suit that would be better for an official meeting.  Supposedly, all of these things look extremely sexy and make an incredible impression. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But… The result is quite the opposite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your goal is to make up a look that will suit your current mood, make it easy for you to move and feel comfortable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ask yourself a question, \u201cWhat do I want to be like today?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, it would also be great to keep relevance in mind. If your date is in a park, classic shoes or a frock would likely be out of place.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. A stop list<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember that it’s not just your date sizing you up, you are also deciding whether you want to be in touch with this person in the future. In advance, make a stop list of things that you cannot tolerate in a person. For example, abusing alcohol, humiliating other people, etc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

These items should be actually relevant, making you uncomfortable or disturbed, rather than some elevated expectations (\u201ceuh, why would anyone use an Android instead of an iPhone?\u201d). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. A letter of self-support<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Write yourself a letter with some words of support. If it\u2019s difficult, write the things you would tell your child or a close friend in the same situation. Try to read it before entering the place of your date. Such letters fill you with warmth and give you confidence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are too lazy to write a letter, a small message in a messenger sent to your own phone would also work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Unloading<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before getting ready to go on a date, arrange an unloading session for yourself, for example, dance for 15 minutes or make some exercises. This will improve your body tone and relieve tension.      <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel shy when talking to your date, move your shoulders from side to side, it helps to remove the block of shyness. 
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There are people who feel no anxiety whatsoever before going on a date. There are also those who experience all sorts of trepidation, from slight excitement to full-fledged paralyzing panic.  If you are the latter, let\u2019s try to lower your anxiety.  Our goal is to shift your focus to yourself. Usually, worrying a lot before… Leggi tutto »Preparing for a date<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4969,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[109,332,738,805,808,883],"class_list":["post-4968","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mental-health","tag-appointment","tag-couple","tag-intimacy","tag-look","tag-love","tag-mindspa"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4968","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4968"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4968\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4969"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4968"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4968"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4968"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}