{"id":5221,"date":"2021-02-16T18:40:31","date_gmt":"2021-02-16T18:40:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=5221"},"modified":"2021-02-16T18:40:31","modified_gmt":"2021-02-16T18:40:31","slug":"what-to-do-if-your-partner-wants-an-open-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/what-to-do-if-your-partner-wants-an-open-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"What to do if your partner wants an open relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/New-Project.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5222\" width=\"202\" height=\"134\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/New-Project.jpg 600w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/New-Project-64x43.jpg 64w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/New-Project-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/New-Project-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/New-Project-500x333.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 202px) 100vw, 202px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Everything was going well with you two, great even. And suddenly your partner says, almost in passing: \u201cWhat do you think about trying out an open relationship?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019re confused, life didn\u2019t prepare you for this. Let&#8217;s figure it out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First, let\u2019s establish what an open relationship is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>OK, so an open relationship (or an open partnership)&nbsp; is a form of relationship where the participants want to be together, but at the same time agree on non-monogamy. To put it simply,&nbsp; they award each other freedom for romantic or sexual relations with third parties. As you know, in this format of relationships, sex with others is not considered cheating and is totally allowed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Given the above, it\u2019s obvious that this type of partnership is possible if it suits <em>both <\/em>partners. Otherwise, it\u2019ll be called something else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Therefore, to begin with, it\u2019s worth clarifying: what does your partner mean by this concept? How exactly does see imagine this free, open relationship?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is no point in continuing the conversation if you hear something like &#171;well, it means that I can do whatever I want, with whomever I want, and you\u2019ll be fine with it without any drama&#187;.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If it\u2019s really about an open partnership, then before breaking off the relationship or, conversely, easily and quickly accepting the \u201crules of the game\u201d, try to figure out the reasons that prompted your partner to take such a step (by the way, sometimes you can decide whether or not to agree at this very stage):<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>you have different temperaments and &#171;appetites&#187; (for example, having sex twice a month is fine for you, but for the partner it is almost celibacy)<\/li><li>your partner is not a monogamous person and in his system of values ,polyamory is a more important and interesting option<\/li><li>something is missing for the partner in sex, so he hopes to get it from another person (in this case, you can really discuss this situation and, possibly go without involving a &#171;third party&#187;)<\/li><li>it seems to the partner that it is you who is bored and wanting some novelty, which is why he is offering this strategy<\/li><li>the partner feels that he\u2019s not getting enough attention and love from you (which, again, is worth discussing)<\/li><li>your partner has suggested this option as soon as certain difficulties have made an appearance in your relationship (unfortunately, this may be a sign of an immature and childlike personality, and his decision is unlikely to strengthen your relationship).<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n<div align=\"center\">\n<div class=\"alt-notice\" align=\"center\"><b><font color=\"white\">UNLOCKING MENTAL WELLBEING<\/font><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Self-therapy can be an essential tool for personal growth and self-improvement.<br \/>Browse through our <a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/courses\/\" rel=\"noopener\"><u>courses<\/u><\/a> and see the positive changes they can bring to your life.<\/p>\n<p>You are not sure where to begin?<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">\n<p class=\"product woocommerce add_to_cart_inline example-cart-button\" style=\"border: 0px;\"><a class=\"button product_type_simple add_to_cart_button ajax_add_to_cart\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/en\/psy-tests\/\" rel=\"nofollow\">TAKE A FREE TEST<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"buttons\" style=\"border: 0px;\"><a class=\"button product_type_simple add_to_cart_button ajax_add_to_cart\" href=\"https:\/\/mindspa.typeform.com\/to\/za9nGe8T\" rel=\"nofollow\"><small><u>or get a free consultation<\/u><\/small><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>No, there\u2019s no single reason, even if a very compelling one, that means that your task is to bow your head peacefully and follow your loved one into an unknown and possibly unsuitable territory for you. Set aside the received information as a point for analysis and continue to study the issue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Research the different types of open relationships, their pros and cons. Who knows, maybe something will even interest you. By the way, rejection of monogamy can take different forms &#8212; flirtation only, kisses only, online dating only, etc. Every couple chooses an option that suits them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In order to make an informed and conscious decision, you have to work with your thoughts and feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Analyze and write down what you feel when you hear or read about open relationships (interest, nervousness, anxiety, panic).<\/li><li>Write down everything that upsets you about these relationships.<\/li><li>Write down the pros of this type of communication that you perceive.<\/li><li>Consider the courses that the events could take: what\u2019ll happen if I say \u201cyes\u201d, and if I say \u201cno\u201d.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>The more you describe your feelings, the better you\u2019ll know yourself and it\u2019ll become clearer which decision should be made.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Please remember that refusing an open relationship doesn\u2019t make you a bad, fussy person. And agreeing to it doesn\u2019t mean that you are doing something terrible. It\u2019s important for you to rely on your feelings and agree to the offer ONLY IF YOU COME TO THE CONCLUSION: YES, I ALSO WANT TO TRY IT.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, if you think that an open partnership is worth a try, but you feel some anxiety and uncertainty, then the most reasonable step would be to have a frank conversation with your partner, where you\u2019ll discuss everything in detail and dot all the i\u2019s and cross the t\u2019s. Namely:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>Set clear boundaries:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>What\u2019s allowed and what is strictly forbidden in your partnership ( meet anywhere but don\u2019t bring anyone home; it\u2019s necessary to introduce a new paramour, etc.)<\/li><li>With whom the sex is off-limits entirely (colleagues, best friends, exes, Elaine)<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>About jealousy<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It can\u2019t be avoided no matter what, so it\u2019s best to tell one another in advance what can cause it (nighttime calls, social media comments, traces of lipstick, etc.) and try not to allow such situations to occur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>About safety<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Always observe the rules of safe sex!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>Feedback<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Agree that after some time (a month, half a year) you\u2019ll return to this conversation again. This will be necessary in order to once again revise your arrangements, add or remove something, find out if everyone\u2019s happy with everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Accepting a suggestion of an open relationship, finding a \u201ccompromise\u201d or breaking up \u2013 any of these decisions will require your awareness, wisdom and courage. The most important thing you should remember: the decision to go into an open relationship in fear of losing a partner is a bad option that will definitely end in the collapse of not only the union, but also yourself.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Everything was going well with you two, great even. And suddenly your partner says, almost in passing: \u201cWhat do you think about trying out an open relationship?\u201d You\u2019re confused, life didn\u2019t prepare you for this. Let&#8217;s figure it out. First, let\u2019s establish what an open relationship is. OK, so an open relationship (or an open&hellip;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/what-to-do-if-your-partner-wants-an-open-relationship\/\" class=\"\" rel=\"bookmark\">Leggi tutto &raquo;<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">What to do if your partner wants an open relationship<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5222,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,5],"tags":[482,808,868,883,1104,1178],"class_list":["post-5221","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-eng","category-mental-health","tag-emotional","tag-love","tag-mentality","tag-mindspa","tag-protected-sex","tag-report"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5221","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5221"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5221\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5222"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5221"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5221"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5221"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}