{"id":5401,"date":"2021-03-24T17:39:38","date_gmt":"2021-03-24T17:39:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=5401"},"modified":"2021-03-24T17:39:38","modified_gmt":"2021-03-24T17:39:38","slug":"signs-of-codependency","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/signs-of-codependency\/","title":{"rendered":"Signs of codependency"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft size-large is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/relazione-104.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5402\" width=\"170\" height=\"113\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/relazione-104.jpg 600w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/relazione-104-64x43.jpg 64w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/relazione-104-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/relazione-104-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/relazione-104-500x333.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 170px) 100vw, 170px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Today, we prepared for you an extract from our \u201c<strong>Love Addiction<\/strong>\u201d course.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let\u2019s review signs of codependency in detail &#8212; that way, you\u2019d be able to match them with yourself and your relationship. You\u2019ll see whether there\u2019s something similar in your current relationship or your previous one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Signs of codependency:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You feel uncomfortable in the relationship. You don\u2019t get satisfaction from this relationship. But you hope that things can still get better.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You have to \u201c<strong>earn<\/strong>\u201d the love of the partner. To get his attention, certain conditions must be met. Otherwise, you will be \u201cpunished\u201d with aloofness or criticism. And the partner\u2019s deviations from the norms and rules that you propose to observe in your union are negatively perceived by you.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>It seems to you that you\u2019re more interested in your relationship than your partner and invest more in it. Sometimes because of this you can get very angry with him. And you feel ready at such times to even break up. But after a while you become scared of losing this person, and you reproach yourself for seditious thoughts, rush to make amends.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>In the relationship, both you and your partner violate each other\u2019s personal boundaries. Two individual \u201cI\u201ds dissolve into a common \u201cWe\u201d. There\u2019s no understanding of what is \u201cmine\u201d and what isn\u2019t. So, for example, today I can make a sacrifice and go watch football with my husband and his friends instead of joyfully walking in the park. And tomorrow I\u2019ll start a row with him because he doesn\u2019t value my interests at all. In codependent relationships, this often happens.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Your partner becomes your primary project. You\u2019re fully concentrating on him and his activities. At the same time, your personal goals and desires are relegated to the background as less significant. You perceive his problems as your own and feel an irresistible need to take part in solving them, even if you aren\u2019t asked.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>\u00a0You have a strong belief that the partner is the source of all problems. Therefore, it\u2019s him who must change for his own or your common good. And you enthusiastically direct him to the path of change, whilst denying your own complicity in the problem.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>There\u2019s not enough openness and sincerity in your relationship. Communication often takes place through hints, conjectures, and manipulations. It\u2019s hard for you to ask and say directly what you want, but when you don\u2019t get it, you\u2019re upset with your partner. It seems to you that the partner should know what is on your mind and what you are feeling right now. And at the same time, you\u2019re convinced that you interpret the thoughts and feelings of your  partner correctly.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>\u00a0Your emotional state and mood are directly dependent on the emotional state and mood of the partner. And, if he, for example, seems moody, then you think that this is somehow about you.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>It\u2019s difficult for you to take a seat at the negotiations table during a conflict. And if you do manage it, you dive into emotions and recriminations, not paying attention to the other\u2019s point of view. And a constructive dialogue becomes very difficult.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You need to know where the partner is at all times and what he\u2019s doing. And he often responds in the same way. That\u2019s because control is the eternal companion of codependent relationships. Under the obsessive need to keep a partner in sight, a lack of true trust could be hiding.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>It can be very difficult for you to accept the fact that your partner might have plans and intentions different from yours. And it seems to you that you\u2019re being rejected if the partner spends time with friends or other people important to him. You\u2019re jealous of his work or hobby.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>In the relationship, you want the partner to take responsibility for your safety, material well-being and happiness. Or you yourself take excessive responsibility for him.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You often feel a sense of inexplicable anxiety related to the relationship. Sometimes you have an irrational fear that one day the partner will simply leave.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Two opposite phases clearly manifest in your relationship &#8212; \u201c<strong>everything\u2019s good<\/strong>\u201d and \u201c<strong>everything\u2019s bad<\/strong>\u201d. And depending on the phase, the partner appears to you as either the most wonderful person in the world, or the devil incarnate.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>The relationship has a negative impact on other areas of life &#8212; work, career, communication with children, relatives and friends. Relationship is a priority, everything else is clearly insignificant.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You allow that sex can happen without you wanting it in order not to offend the partner and hurt the relationship. And you can use sex in order to feel closer to the partner.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>The relationship is so engrossing that sometimes you feel trapped with no way out. Thoughts about committing suicide on the basis of unrequited love can visit you.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You sacrifice your interests, pleasures, even needs for the sake of maintaining a &#171;<strong>good relationship<\/strong>.&#187; You are afraid to cause your partner\u2019s displeasure and provoke a row.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You don\u2019t have a sense of value in the relationship, it feels to you that you can only value something for something else.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>If at least a few signs we listed are present in your relationship (past or current), there\u2019s a distinct possibility that this relationship is codependent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And you need to tackle the relationship area in order to fix it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can do that in our \u201c<strong>Love Addiction<\/strong>\u201d course. 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Let\u2019s review signs of codependency in detail &#8212; that way, you\u2019d be able to match them with yourself and your relationship. You\u2019ll see whether there\u2019s something similar in your current relationship or your previous one. Signs of codependency: You feel uncomfortable in the&hellip;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/signs-of-codependency\/\" class=\"\" rel=\"bookmark\">Leggi tutto &raquo;<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Signs of codependency<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5402,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2,5],"tags":[245,808,883,996,1035,1169,1285],"class_list":["post-5401","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-eng","category-mental-health","tag-codependency","tag-love","tag-mindspa","tag-partners","tag-personality","tag-relationship","tag-sex"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5401","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5401"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5401\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5402"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5401"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5401"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5401"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}