{"id":5440,"date":"2021-04-02T16:10:50","date_gmt":"2021-04-02T16:10:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=5440"},"modified":"2021-04-02T16:10:50","modified_gmt":"2021-04-02T16:10:50","slug":"how-to-communicate-with-an-irritated-person","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/how-to-communicate-with-an-irritated-person\/","title":{"rendered":"How to communicate with an irritated person?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Irritation isn\u2019t just \u201cbeing not into the mood<\/strong>\u201d, it\u2019s suppressed aggression that for some reason can be neither expressed nor directed at whoever or whatever caused it, which is why it rolls up in a ball and keeps on boiling and roaring quietly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Irritation can be constantly present, taking away your power and making your life worse. Moreover, breaking through at the worst possible moments, it can force us into complicated situations and might earn us a bad reputation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to help someone else:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

To be honest, we usually feel like abandoning an irritated person rather than helping them, that\u2019s our self-preservation instinct. If it\u2019s someone you don\u2019t know, that\u2019s exactly what you should do. However, if it\u2019s someone dear to you, you can try to:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— ask them, \u201cYou seem irritated, or am I wrong?\u201d<\/em> Watch your tone, it has to be calm and warm-hearted;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— let the person express their feelings out loud, but never become a punching bag!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— if the person is being responsive, you can help them clarify the reasons: \u201cIs there something you don\u2019t like?\u201d, \u201cWould you prefer something to be different?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

— if you can help change the situation, try to do it; if you can\u2019t, be empathetic, \u201cYes, it happens<\/em>\u2639<\/em> Sometimes you want something, but struggle to get it\u2026\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

— suggest safer ways of expressing irritation: tearing up old papers, doodling in a notebook, making deep breaths, imagining something nice and mentally transferring yourself to that image.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not recommended:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

— letting other people lash out at you, even if they are close to you;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— making comments like, \u201cChill<\/strong>!\u201d, \u201cCan\u2019t you just stop being angry!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to help yourself:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

— <\/strong>try to understand which message your irritation is giving you. Write down the following question: What (who) am I actually angry at?<\/em> Listen to yourself and articulate an answer;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— if you cannot manage to comprehend it, analyze your major inner zones controlled by emotions (lack of something \/excess of something): <\/p>\n\n\n\n