{"id":5687,"date":"2021-05-06T21:39:34","date_gmt":"2021-05-06T21:39:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindspa.me\/?p=5687"},"modified":"2021-05-06T21:39:34","modified_gmt":"2021-05-06T21:39:34","slug":"letters-from-readers-immigration","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/letters-from-readers-immigration\/","title":{"rendered":"Letters from readers — Immigration"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cHello, my dear Mindspa team!  I hope I am not too late for \u201cDear therapist<\/strong>\u201d column. I\u2019ve been wanting to write for a long time, just couldn\u2019t put my thoughts into words. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, I\u2019ll try. I don\u2019t think you\u2019ve seen a case like this before. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cImmigration malady<\/strong>\u201d. I moved to another country after I finished college. Alone. No connections, no acquaintances. I wasn\u2019t planning on it, but my friend told me \u201cgive it a<\/strong> try<\/strong>\u201d. I didn\u2019t have problems with the language. I got immigration papers, started earning good money, but this is not my dream job. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

While I was waiting for my papers, I\u2019ve been working in bars and restaurants. Today, I am 33, I don\u2019t have a husband or a boyfriend. And I don\u2019t have experience of working in any other profession. So, I don\u2019t know what to do. Especially, now, in this situation. My profession no longer inspires me. I know that I can do more. But what? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

My psychological slide downhill started right after I moved. I am sliding towards being a helpless child. I\u2019ve always been brave, never afraid of anything. I would always take chances, ahead of everyone else. I\u2019ve had 4 jobs and a college. But here\u2026 At the age of 20 I had to start from scratch. Career, friends, relationships (mentality is different here). I started running into sadists and narcissists. My self-esteem is getting worse and worse, every year. I don\u2019t feel at home neither at my birthplace nor here, nowhere. I am stuck in the mental state of a teen. I am not able to \u201cgrow up<\/strong>\u201d \u2013 it is too scary. I am trying to look for support, but I am not able to find it here. My ties with the Russian community didn\u2019t develop, from the very beginning. Gossip, rumors, whispering behind your back \u2013 this was too suffocating for me. I feel like I am being drained by all th\u0435se hardships, and my fixations and psychological traumas are resurfacing.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I would like to know how to support myself among strangers, in a different culture. How can I support myself and stop feeling helpless?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n