{"id":962409,"date":"2024-07-19T02:09:50","date_gmt":"2024-07-19T02:09:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mindspa.me\/?p=962409"},"modified":"2024-07-19T02:09:54","modified_gmt":"2024-07-19T02:09:54","slug":"positive-trauma-why-we-are-drawn-to-the-place-where-we-felt-bad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/positive-trauma-why-we-are-drawn-to-the-place-where-we-felt-bad\/","title":{"rendered":"Positive trauma. Why we are drawn to the place where we felt bad"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The notion \u201cpositive trauma\u201d refers to a fixation that occurs when a person receives something desirable at a time of major deficiency. \u201cThanks\u201d to positive trauma people find themselves in a dependent relationship that can keep pulling them back even after a breakup.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s how it works:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb Your need for attention is satisfied by 0 points<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb You feel extremely lonely: \u201cno one needs me\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb A person enters your life and surrounds you with attention so that you are basking in care<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb Your need for attention is satisfied by 10 points<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb You get the self-perception \u201cI\u2019m needed\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb You are fixated: \u201cTHIS particular person = satisfaction of my need\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb The dependence formula is \u201cno person \u2013 no attention\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or, for instance:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb Your need for security is satisfied by 5 points<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb You are haunted by helplessness and confusion<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb A person enters your life who takes care of all problems<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb Your need for security is satisfied up by 10 points<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb You get the self-perception \u201cI am protected\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb You are fixated: \u201cTHIS particular person = satisfaction of my need\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u25cb The dependence formula is \u201cno person \u2013 no security\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

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Things get mixed up in your mind: you think that ONLY THIS PARTICULAR PERSON makes it possible for you to satisfy your need and feel a certain way. This is what keeps you \u201chooked\u201d, making you fantasize about going back to the place where you actually shouldn’t be, or end up in a relationship that isn\u2019t good for you again and again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can you break this vicious circle?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You have to \u201cretrain\u201d yourself, your brain. The ability to satisfy your needs by yourself is an excellent defense against a dependent relationship and a compelling desire to get back to it. Because when we have this ability, we build our relationships based not on deficiency, but on abundance and on the desire for a greater happiness, greater joy, and togetherness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If being pulled back into the past sounds like a familiar problem, try out the following plan:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— Identify the need that you got fixated on;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— Separate satisfaction of your need from your ex-partner;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— Install the right self-perception into your mind (EMDR practice is perfect for this);<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— Gradually «retrain» your brain;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

— Find alternative ways to satisfy the need and to get the desired self-perception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/br>

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The notion \u201cpositive trauma\u201d refers to a fixation that occurs when a person receives something desirable at a time of major deficiency. \u201cThanks\u201d to positive trauma people find themselves in a dependent relationship that can keep pulling them back even after a breakup.   Here\u2019s how it works: \u25cb Your need for attention is satisfied by… Leggi tutto »Positive trauma. Why we are drawn to the place where we felt bad<\/span><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":962438,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[28,102,808,883,1167,1235,1419,1458],"class_list":["post-962409","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-eng","tag-ache","tag-anxiety","tag-love","tag-mindspa","tag-relation","tag-safety","tag-thoughts","tag-trauma"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/962409","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=962409"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/962409\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/962438"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=962409"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=962409"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindspa-dev.ru\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=962409"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}